I was judged unfairly once when I was in high school. I was accused of something I didn’t do, and even though I tried to prove my innocence, nobody believed me. It was a really tough experience, and I still remember how hurt and frustrated I felt at the time. Thankfully, I was able to move on from it and learn from the experience. These days, I’m a lot more careful about who I trust and what information I share with others. I’m also more aware of how my actions can be interpreted, so I try to be as careful as possible to avoid any misunderstanding.
When I was in elementary school, people had the wrong opinion of who I am as a person because I was different from everyone else. Since I’ve always been larger in size than most individuals, this hasn’t changed. Because of my environment and the fact that I’m huge, I used to dress differently than others.
I was always self-conscious about the way I looked and how people would view me. So, when I came across this situation, it felt like a personal attack.
I remember going to school one day and feeling so out of place. I was wearing a pair of jean overalls with a white tee-shirt underneath and my hair was in two french braids. As soon as I walked into the classroom, I could feel everyone’s eyes on me. I tried to ignore it and take my seat, but the whispers started up almost immediately. “Why is she dressed like that?” “She looks ridiculous!” “What is she even supposed to be?” I wanted to disappear.
The teacher walked in and started taking attendance, but I couldn’t focus. I could feel the eyes of my classmates boring into me and the laughter seemed to be directed at me. Every time I moved, it felt like they were laughing at me. I wanted to cry, but I held it in. Finally, the bell rang and I was able to escape to lunch.
I sat down at an empty table and took out my lunch, but I had lost my appetite. I pushed the food around on my plate and tried not to think about how everyone was probably still laughing at me. After a few minutes, I got up and threw away my uneaten lunch. I couldn’t take it anymore. I spent the rest of the day in a daze, barely hearing anything that was going on around me.
It wasn’t until I got home and told my mom what happened that I realized how wrong it was for those kids to judge me. Just because I was different from them didn’t mean I deserved to be treated that way. My mom comforted me and told me that I shouldn’t let other people’s opinions of me get to me. She said that I was special and unique and that was something to be celebrated, not ridiculed.
Ever since that day, I have tried to live by my mom’s words. I don’t let other people’s judgmental attitudes get to me. I know that I am special and unique and I am proud of who I am.
I’m also into hip-hop because of who I grew up with; nevertheless, I was the only one who only listened to hip-hop since everyone was educated not to listen to the language they spoke in those songs. When I was a youngster and didn’t dress or look like everyone else, it would be difficult for me to join in certain groups owing to fear by some of the smaller kids or outright distaste at my being the biggest kid in class.
There was a lot of pressure to fit in and be like everyone else, but I just couldn’t do it. Even when I did try to be like everyone else it never really worked out because I would always end up getting made fun of for being different. It felt like no matter what I did I was always going to be judged unfairly.
One time, in particular, that stands out to me is when I was in fourth grade. We were having a dance at school and all the girls in my class were talking about who they were going to ask to dance with them. I didn’t really care about any of that stuff, but one of the girls asked me if I was going to ask anyone to dance. I said no, I wasn’t really into that kind of stuff. She then proceeded to ask me why I wasn’t into it and I told her that I just didn’t think it was cool. She laughed at me and said that I was just a baby and that I would understand when I got older.
It hurt my feelings because I thought I was being judged unfairly. I didn’t think it was fair that she was laughing at me and making me feel like I was a child just because I didn’t want to dance. It felt like she was telling me that I wasn’t good enough to do something that everyone else was doing. That experience made me realize that sometimes people are going to judge you unfairly, but you just have to brush it off and keep moving forward.
Despite all of the times I’ve been judged unfairly, I’ve never let it stop me from being myself. I’ve always tried to stay true to who I am and not let anyone else dictate how I should live my life. I think that’s one of the most important things you can do in life; be yourself and don’t let anyone else control you. When you do that, you’ll be much happier and more successful in life.
I’m still a big guy; however, I’m going to try to reduce significantly because I believe in today’s society, you have to be thin or average to be accepted. Unfortunately, my weight and appearance have gotten less and less content for me over time, causing me to doubt myself and stymying some of the best times of my life. There are several facts about America being the most overweight nation on earth, and I see numerous health commercials regarding children’s obesity.
I used to play football and was always one of the biggest and strongest guys on the team. I loved playing football; however, when I got to college I didn’t make the team. The reason I wasn’t good enough was because I was too big. They said that my weight was a liability and that I would get hurt easily. This made me so mad and frustrated because all my life I had been good at sports and now all of a sudden I wasn’t good enough because of my weight.
I remember another time when I was judged unfairly because of my weight. One day I went out with some friends and we were going to go swimming at the local pool. We walked in and the lifeguard told us that we couldn’t swim because we were too big. He said that we would take up too much space in the pool and that we would be a liability. This made me so mad and I felt so humiliated. I didn’t go swimming that day and I haven’t been back to that pool since.
I think that it’s really unfair how people are judged based on their weight. I know that being overweight is not healthy; however, I don’t think that people should be treated unfairly because of it. I have tried to lose weight many times, but it’s very hard for me. I hope one day people will be more accepting of people no matter what their weight is.